What Matters/Love

Love
John Lennon assured us: "All you need is love".

Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. Love is also a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection; and "the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another".

Loving relationships, the sharing of love and the expression of love with others, is one of life's most fulfilling experiences.

The main condition for the achievement of love is the overcoming of one's narcissism. Work to attain an authentic humility and overcome the asymmetry of your first person viewpoint.

Refuse to hate. Develop empathy. Practice compassion and loving-kindness every day. Increase your capacity for love, to be loved, and to enjoy love.

Assignment:

 * Approach people with an attitude of unconditional positive regard.
 * Study this essay on becoming compassionate. Take the steps outlined for getting there.
 * List the various loves in your life. This might include a childhood pet, a favorite place, an aunt, uncle, or grandparent, a favorite activity, hobby, song, or book. Recall your feelings of joyful awareness. Extend these joyful feelings toward each person in your present family, including your spouse or lover, siblings, parents, and children. Continue to extend these joyful feelings to those more distant from you, including your neighbors, co-workers, and others. Develop empathy. Eventually strive to extend joyful feelings toward people you disagree with and those you dislike.
 * Give and receive consummate love with your intimate partner.
 * Give and receive companionate love with others close to you.

Suggestions for further reading:

 * Although written from a christian perspective, many of the messages are universal.
 * (Evaluate: The Ways and Power of Love: Types, Factors, and Techniques of Moral Transformation )
 * (Evaluate: Essays in Love )
 * (Evaluate: Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray )
 * (Evaluate: Dirty Minds: How Our Brains Influence Love, Sex, and Relationships )
 * (Evaluate: The Rules of Love: A Personal Code for Happier, More Fulfilling Relationships )
 * (Evaluate: Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love )
 * (Evaluate: Socrates in Love: Philosophy for a Passionate Heart )
 * (Evaluate: Awakening Loving-Kindness )
 * (Evaluate: Training the Mind and Cultivating Loving-Kindness )
 * (Evaluate: Eight Steps to Happiness: The Buddhist Way of Loving Kindness )
 * (Evaluate: The Seven Levels of Intimacy: The Art of Loving and the Joy of Being Loved )
 * (Evaluate: Dirty Minds: How Our Brains Influence Love, Sex, and Relationships )
 * (Evaluate: The Rules of Love: A Personal Code for Happier, More Fulfilling Relationships )
 * (Evaluate: Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love )
 * (Evaluate: Socrates in Love: Philosophy for a Passionate Heart )
 * (Evaluate: Awakening Loving-Kindness )
 * (Evaluate: Training the Mind and Cultivating Loving-Kindness )
 * (Evaluate: Eight Steps to Happiness: The Buddhist Way of Loving Kindness )
 * (Evaluate: The Seven Levels of Intimacy: The Art of Loving and the Joy of Being Loved )